Fifty Shades of Abuse
By Dr. Patrick Johnston
Where are the feminists when you need them? If a Christian leader dares to assert that his wife is and should be a homemaker, the feminists slander and threaten, but when Hollywood depicts a billionaire stalking and tying up a woman for violent, degrading intercourse against her will, that’s “art.” Make no mistake, when Hollywood dares to portray a woman as the abused turf of a selfish, sadistic creep in love with his own machismo, they do a grave disservice to women in the culture.
Some have speculated that since the story ends well with the sadomasochist abandoning the handcuffs and whips for genuine tenderness in a future sequel, it’s a worthy journey, but we only get there after a trilogy of abuse and perversion. If Fifty Shades is a love story, then the Nazi Holocaust was a charity ball, gun control keeps us safe, and Planned Parenthood loves babies. Movies like this encourage love like a drug-dealer encourages sobriety.
The thing about sexual abuse is that it creates an appetite for it, stimulating just enough curiosity in the culture to tempt the more promiscuous among us to spice up their love life with chains and whips, and to entice the culturally conservative to wonder what in the world they’re missing.
After all, Kroger’s selling the novels, the sixteen-year-old porn addict reminds the affection-starved fifteen-year-old girlfriend. Why not give it a try? If the abuse of women can be thus glamorized by Hollywood, why should the sixteen-year-old even ask for permission before he breaks out the cuffs. For love’s sake, we must have a zero tolerance of the abuse of women.
What is love? Love rejoices not in lawlessness, First Corinthians 13 tells us, but rejoices in the truth, in righteousness, in purity. Lust is not loving. Violent lust is criminally malicious, even if the victim has pathologically permitted the abuse. If an abuser obtains consent from his victim, the abuse is still not justified and the one consenting needs careful counselling to help him or her distinguish once again normal and healthy from harmful and perverted. We shouldn’t let people grow accustomed to being doormats for abusers any more than we should let people inject illegal drugs, indulge in bulimic binging and purging, sell their bodies, commit suicide, or any other harmful thing those inwardly hurting might be tempted to do to themselves to quench the pain. For love’s sake, we should discourage harmful, sinful behavior.
Contrary to the presupposed nonsense of the godless judiciary, smut isn’t “free speech.” It is sin. Jesus said in Matthew 5, if you look at a woman with lust, you’ve committed adultery in your heart, and it would be better for you to pluck out an eye and go through life with one eye than to spend eternity forever in hell with two. Lust doesn’t pay, not in the end. “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). There’s no such thing as safe sin, not in this life nor in the next.
Why would a loving God forbid pornography, adultery, homosexual acts, and urge civil governments to penalize such crime? Because God is cruel and doesn’t want us to enjoy our own sexuality? No – because He IS loving and wants to restrain our sexual appetites to where they can be most enjoyable, within the confines of self-control.
Just as a train ruins its potential when it leaps the boundaries of its tracks for the carefree frolicking of the forest for which it wasn’t designed, so does sexual sin hinder human enjoyment in the long run. Just as a donut loses its luster when you’re four hundred pounds due to overeating them, so does physiological sex grow boring to one accustomed to a dozen pixilated Playboy bunnies to bring him to climax – or whips and cruelty when the pixilated Playboys simply aren’t enough. When legalized smut finds its way into the minds of a woman’s mate, it engenders selfishness and discontent with a normal woman.
A real woman get headaches from time to time. A real woman gains weight when she gets pregnant and requires tenderness to enjoy intimacy. Healthy women don’t let men tie them up or beat and violently abuse them sexually. A healthy woman doesn’t enjoy being put through a meat grinder to satisfy the basest of desires from the basest of men who care not a wink about them. A mentally strong woman would dial 911, or even better, draw a weapon and defend herself to the death should a pervert try to cuff her to a bed post.
How can the sex slavery and human trafficking business find so many customers? Look no further than the smut shops that dot the highway, the porn sites that bloat the internet, and the pervs clogging the back room of “Family Video.” Thanks to Cinemark and Kroger peddling Fifty Shades of Bondage Smut, you’ll find the sex trafficking customer base growing. Thanks to a feminist movement that shackles women and calls it freedom, kills babies and calls it choice. Thanks to the weakened resolve of American Christians to speak against abuse and to stand up for love.